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The buildup to sex can be just as good as the main eventespecially with foreplay ideas.
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But really, whatisforeplay?
Well, its definitely so much more than kissing, fingering, and oral sex.
Many find that the sooner you start and the more you draw it out, the better itll be.
Part of the reason?
We asked sex therapists and experts to weigh in on how to foreplay while keeping things interesting.
Relive your best moments.
Relationship fact: Theearly days of your romancetend to be the hottest and heaviest.
But that doesn’t mean you might’t still capture that gotta-have-you-now passion.
Start off outside the bedroom.
Another hallmark of those hot early hookups is that they don’t necessarily happen in the bedroom.
“Its the unexpected that keeps things interesting,” she says.
You might be surprised how manyplaces to have sexyou’ve been overlooking.
Dirty talkcan be ridiculously effective forgetting turned onit’s an especially good way to initiate foreplay.
Not sure where to start?
No need to overthink it.
Heat and cold can both add a lot to the sensations you’re already feeling.
Playing with hot and coldor the two combinedshould create “a delicious shiver,” says Six.
Do a little dance.
Looking to up the ante during foreplay?
Or if you’re feeling extra bold, do your dance in the buff.
Make foreplay an all-day event.
Sensual foreplay doesn’t need to be limited to the bedroom.
Tease each other throughout the entire day for extra heat.
Normally leave the lights off?
Try lighting candles instead (maybe even one ofthese massage candles).
Tell each other how you feel.
Telling your partner what you like about them is a huge turn-on.
Who doesn’t like compliments?Praise kinkis very much a thing.
Act out a fantasy.
Then choose one randomly and act it out.
Admittedly, this can feel a little cheesy at first.
Even in that short amount of time, you might find yourselves getting swept up in your roles.
Sometimes almost kissing can be as tantalizing as kissing itself.
Get close enough so that your mouths are just barely touching and your lips are partedthough not actually kissing.
It’s simple but deeply intimateyou’ll be surprised at how steamy things get.
Sometimes the best form of foreplay is as simple as relaxing.
Giving each other a sensual massage is a recipe for relaxation and a good warm-up to any sexual encounter.
The oil creates a silky-smooth glide that intensifies every sensation.
Watch a sexy movie together.
Sometimes it opens you up to ideas you might not have thought of before.
Start by looking forfeminist pornsites.
Find a sexy story.
If the visual medium isn’t your thing, that’s totally fine.
Watching people have sex onscreen doesn’t do it for everyone.
But don’t write all forms of porn off just yet.
Check outDipseafor the sexy alternative to your favorite podcast.
Mime each others moves.
It’s as simple as it sounds: Sit, stand, or lie down facing each other.
Then begin miming the other’s moves.
If his or her hand reaches to slip your top off, you do the same to them.
Play a kissing game.
Tell your partner to sit on the sofa or lie down on the bed.
Here’s the catch: Your partner has to stay totally still.
They can’t move, or touch you, or have a go at kiss you back.
The buildup and anticipation will have you both dying to get intimate.
Have your partner lie on their back and proceed to play a little game of “getting warmer.”
Use your hands (or your mouth) to gently caress different parts of their body.
You could start with random spots like the knees or forehead and then move to moreerogenous zones.
While you’re moving about, ask how your partner is handling the temperature.
Keep “getting warmer” until they can’t take it anymore and then switch roles.
Practice your communication skills.
Don’t be afraid to let your partner know when they do something that you like.
Chances are, just talking about it might lead to more.
“You get the thrill of a ‘one-night stand’ without the hassle, or infidelity.”
Make a yes/no/maybe list.
Review the lists together to see where you and your partner land.
Next time you’re on your way home,send a flirty text.
Sync up your breathing.
Begin to breathe together, inhaling deeply through the nose and exhaling through the mouth.
Visualize your breath moving through your bodies and gently rock your hips back and forth.
But be warned: It may get hot and heavy sooner than you think.
Your favorite foods can make for super sexy foreplay too.
Indulge in the sensual act of feeding each other, Bashout says.
Focus on the textures, the tastes, and the intimate act of nourishing each other.
This practice awakens all the senses to deepen your connection and amplify your shared pleasure.
Bashout suggests also touching or nibbling on each other while you tease your tastebuds.
Use your mouth (not just in that way).
To make foreplayor any sexual experience, for that mattermore seductive, vocalize when you breathe.
Let your moans, groans, and sighs become a source of pleasure, Bashout says.
Tantalize with a few prrrrrrrrs, aaahhhhhhaas, ooooooos, and eeeeeeees, Bashout continues.
Bring in a feather.
Use a feather to lightly brush over your partners body, exploring their most sensitive areas, Bashout says.
This tantalizing touch arouses the skin and awakens a sensual awareness that is both playful and deeply erotic.
And if youre feeling adventurous, it’s possible for you to also add a blindfold to the mix.
Circular motions are great to start and can be switched to long, slow strokes then little teasing tickles.
Embrace the innocence and curiosity of this exploration.
As they say, birds of a feather flock togetherand, in this case, fly high.
Lightly stroke each others skin.
The secret to slow, sensual touch is at your fingertips.
Sit or lie down comfortably, facing each other, Bashout says.
According to Bashout, this gentle touch heightens sensitivity and arousal.
It should be slow and deliberate, with focus on the sensation through fingertip touch only, Bashout continues.
In fact, those things will level-up any of the foreplay suggestions on this list.
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