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see to it you are both feeling safe and comfortable.
Researching together how to have better andlonger sexcan be a massive turn on.
So if you’ve always wanted to learnhow to squirt…speak up!
Because a yes at the beginning of kinky sex may not apply toeverythingthat arises.
Once youve had these conversations, its time to get started.
Here are some of our favorite kinky sex ideas.
(Ready for more?
We have a wholelist of kinks and fetishesyou could try.)
Take it to a mirror.
Plus, its an incredible way to strengthen your communication inside and outside of the bedroom.
All you should probably do is begin with a slice of curiosity.
To work up the courage to be more forward, take some time topractice dirty talkon your own.
Just be patient with yourself in this learning process.
(Though if that does it for you, by all means go for it!)
Try trailing the ice cube over your partner’s body when things get steamy for a chillingly good sensation.
Send a racy text.
Be as brave as your vocabulary permits.
You might surprise yourselfthese simple items can open up a world of BDSM sex positions.
We’re guessing you’re going to get a resounding yes.
When you block off one sense, your body intensifies its others.
Nibbling and biting during sex is a sign of passion.
It’s a little naughty and a lot hotthe perfect way to show how turned on you are.
Sometimes kinky sex is all about escapism.
And why not try a uniform?
Spanking can be hot.
If they seem into it, you could spank them a little harder.
Studies have shown that arousal raises our pain threshold, so get after it!
Or pull their hair.
Don’t underestimate the appeal of a firmtug on your partner’s hair.
Give it a gentle pull and see how they like it.
Don’t be afraid to express sexual fantasies as loud as it’s possible for you to.
Let your partner watch you masturbate.
Drip hot oil on your partner with a massage candle.
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Leave the windows open.
The juxtaposition of the outside world and your private, inner sexual play makes things all the more exciting.
Experiment with role play.
It can help you touch parts of yourself that you are disconnected from or otherwise fear.
An excellent way to begin experimenting with role play is by sharing your fantasies with your partner.
Use as much detail and imagination as you’re able to.
This can help you to find out whether there is interest from the other side, says Kova.
Who are the key players, and who takes on what role?
What are you doing at the start, middle, and end?
And what is being done to you versus what you are doing to the other?
Where would the exploration begin, and where does it lead?
When (the time of day, year, season, stage of life)?
Finally, the why.
Let your partner know what this fantasy means for you.
This final Wthe wayis the most important.
Play with sex toys.
Hit up a local store oronline sex shopand stock up on naughty goodies.
We all fall into routines, even when it comes to sex positions.
So make time to shake things up and experiment with new kinky sex positions you’ve never tried before.
Familiar with the Chairwoman or the Coital Alignment Technique?
Then you might like to check out our comprehensive guide tocreative sex positionsor this one for differentface-sitting positions.
you might read it all in one go, or simply bookmark it for a rainy day.
Dont forget the pleasure of oral sex.
Get steamy in the shower.
Case in point: Hopin the showerwith your partner and get busyjust be careful of slippage!
Have some strap-on fun.
If you’re into the idea, talk to your partner.
As always, healthy open communication about sex is key.
Get a sex pillow.
Sometimes angles can make all the difference.
So heres an easy sex tip: Get asex pillow.
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Make a home movie.
Smartphones make it easier than ever to make an X-rated home movie.
Even if you watch it once and delete it, you’ll always have the experience in your memory.
Just see to it to keep digital safety in mindand that any content stays exclusively onyourphone.
Add another mind-blowing entree to the menu:anal sex.
Ifporn is something you enjoy, why not watch it with your partner?
Not ready for that quite yet?
Start with one of thesesexy moviesinstead, or explore one of thesesex games.
Get down in public.
To fake the feeling at home, do it in front of the window.
Have sex on your period.
Period sexdoesn’t have to be off-limits.
In fact, there are plenty of benefits to having period sexincluding increased lubrication and heightened sensitivity.
If you’ve never tried it before, or are worried about a mess, start in the shower.
Wearing underthings that make you feel confident and sexy is the ultimate self-turn-on.
Find pleasure in the fridge.
Bringing food into the bedroom can be oh so hot.
Did someone say threesome?
Threesomesare something of asex dreamfor many people andadding another playerinto your bedroom games IRL can be a memorable adventure.
Just check that to communicate with all parties involved, be safe, andfind the right person.
