Ghostlighting combines the two toxic terms in one almightily troubling new trend.
Am I being ghostlighted?
It normally happens when someone is confronted for ghosting, says Jamie Johnston, cofounder of inclusive dating appMattr.
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For example, Hey, is everything okay, you seem distant?
might be met with Well, I thought you didn’t seem interested enough in me.
Their actions are now your fault.
Shockingly, they will create a scenario that avoids admitting to any wrongdoing on their part.
Why would someone ghostlight?
I think this is happening a lot more due to the choice everyone has with dating, says Johnston.
Not that that makes it okay.Santini adds regarding the nature of digital relationships: Our screens often dehumanize interactions.
People forget there’s a real person with emotions on the other end.
Plus, we live in a world of fleeting Snapchat stories and 24-hour Instagram posts.
This ephemeral nature can, unfortunately, spill over to our relationships.
She adds that ghostlighting may be a sign of a fear of vulnerability in the other person.
Commitment requires vulnerability, she says.
Ghostlighting allows individuals to escape the weight of emotional depth, opting for superficiality instead.
How do I react if someone is ghostlighting me?
Her advice:
This post was originally published inGlamourUK.
