I had this idea of three friends that are almost interchangeable at the beginning, White says.

They all have this voluble, excitable energy.

Theyve been separated by miles, but were made to believe their bond is as strong as ever.

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compliments, and surface-level exchanges.

They explore the White Lotus property in perfectly curated wide-brim hats and colorful resortwear.

And above all, they are never without a large glass of wine.

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Your daughter seems like shes turning into a really cool girl.

Theyre not saying anything for shock value, and theres nothing inherently wrong with these statements.

Im very fascinated by female relationships, Bibb says during our sit-down interview.

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I had this idea that I could somehow ease any pain, which is a joke.

You cant do that in life.

And yet Laurie, Kate, and Jaclyn think they can.

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When Laurie goes off to her room, Kate and Jaclyn use that time to gossip about her.

I think shes kind of stalled out there [in New York], Jaclyn says of Laurie.

No wonder she looks defeated, Kate replies.

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And then the whole thing with the husband…theres something weird there, right?

Its the latter in this case, and frustratingly, more common than any woman would want to admit.

Its a [strange] way of connecting for these women.

Both things can be true, but theyre also being really cruel and mean and judgmental.

Or the one I sadly often see.

We live in a world where women are publicly comparing themselves to each other, Coon says.

I mean, thats all social media is essentially…keeping up with everyone else.

And thats not the choice they made.

Do they have the depth?

Or is it a roadblock so massive that only years of therapy and life can undo?

And if you let go of your stories, will the friendship evolve?

Were living in a time where I feel like storytelling about women is shifting.

Theres a lot of stuff out there right now about frank sexuality in your 40s and 50s and post-divorce.

Its in this show, Coon says.

We just get more interesting as we age.

My 40s have been the most interesting and satisfying decade of my life so far.

I find that were starting to see through the lies.

I have had incredible and supportive women throughout my career and have not felt undercut by women, generally.

I am learning as I get older to ask for help and that its okay.

And that those around me want to help.

I just have to keep remembering that.