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That I never aspired to the corner suite or anything that represented professional domination didnt matter.
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For my grandmother and mother, getting a job, any job, qualified as success.
The point wasfinancial freedom.
Family life was fine, eventually, as long as it didnt get in the way of the above.
Inconveniently for me, the arrival of Lean In coincided with the arrival of motherhood.
I had chosen care over what I perceived as ambition.
I, feminist writer, was letting feminism down.
I had chosen care over what I perceived as ambition.
I, feminist writer, was letting feminism down.
Making money was important to live, but I never tried to make buckets more than I needed.
I never got back on the laptop at 9:30 p.m. or on the weekends.
And yet, look at the terms I use to defineambitious.
Ive totally discounted that I managed to make a career out of writing, which is what I love.
Not to mention the intimate relationships I maintain with my parents, in-laws, siblings, and friends.
And we cant ignore the most time-demanding of them all: motherhood.
I am a parent to two children who are kind and curious.
They had to be ballbusters, tough as nails, and nobody wanted to talk about childcare.
For my generation, embracing care feminism requires a deprogramming and reprogramming.
Yes, theyd like men to do more because care is hard and could hold women back at work.
But they also want men to take part in care because its an important part of a meaningful existence.
Instead, she believes, its inertia and history.
If feminism has had a primary direction, its been up.
Women are more than half of humanity.
Why shouldnt we have more control of our lives, communities, governments, and bank accounts?
No, this care is one of lifes most fundamental ingredients and something we should all aspire to do.
